Exes Boundaries and Relationship Trust
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title: "Exes Boundaries and Relationship Trust"
Her Dad's Rules, You Can't Change Them!
She's got preexisting standards from her dad.
If he did a good job, great for you.
If not, brace yourself.
Know her roots, or face the consequences!
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title: "Exes Boundaries and Relationship Trust"
Her Dad's Rules, You Can't Change Them!
She's got preexisting standards from her dad.
If he did a good job, great for you.
If not, brace yourself.
Know her roots, or face the consequences!
.
.
."
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source_type: instagram
platform: instagram
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topics:
- mindset
- practical
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# Exes Boundaries and Relationship Trust
Her Dad's Rules, You Can't Change Them!
She's got preexisting standards from her dad.
If he did a good job, great fo
## Source Metadata
- **Platform:** instagram
- **URL:** https://www.instagram.com/reel/C2FEcBhhH5U/
- **Relevance:** 45/100
- **Topics:** mindset, practical
- **Source:** ig-fb-export
- **Method:** yt-dlp + faster-whisper | **Confidence:** high
- **Language:** en | **Duration:** 59.6070625s
## Summary
Do you believe that a man can be friend with women X? Unless you're co-parent, there's no need to. My ex was good friends with her ex partner, and she said it was because she felt sorry for him, and she wanted to just be there for him. And I said, so that means you still care about him, right? She w...
## Corrected Transcript / Extracted Text
Do you believe that a man can be friend with women X? Unless you're co-parent, there's no need to. My ex was good friends with her ex partner, and she said it was because she felt sorry for him, and she wanted to just be there for him. And I said, so that means you still care about him, right? She was like, you're course I care about him. I was like, well, why would I want to be someone who cares for an ex partner that they have slept with? They loved it. I don't want it. Here's what I would say. Yes, she can listen to you. But with women, you have to look at their pre-existing morals. If you tell a girl to do something, and then she listens, it's very enough, but it's better to choose one who's self-regulated. And with men. I agree with that as well. Yeah, it's better to choose self-regulated. I know men who are like, the girl I'm going to marry, she deleted her only fans. It's like, well, she had only fans. It's better to just choose one self-regulated. Don't feel like you can change her. See who she is before you? Because it's her dad's job to raise her. If he did a good job, you're chilling. If he did a terrible job, you're screwed. And if before she met you, she's moving a bit mad, but you think you can fix her, her upbringing will always catch up on her and on you. So just let it be. Be with somebody whose dad has done a good job, not you.
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Her Dad's Rules, You Can't Change Them!
She's got preexisting standards from her dad.
If he did a good job, great for you.
If not, brace yourself.
Know her roots, or face the consequences!
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.
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## Key Claims
- Do you believe that a man can be friend with women X? Unless you're co-parent, there's no need to.
- My ex was good friends with her ex partner, and she said it was because she felt sorry for him, and she wanted to just be there for him.
- And I said, so that means you still care about him, right? She was like, you're course I care about him.
- I was like, well, why would I want to be someone who cares for an ex partner that they have slept with? They loved it.
- Here's what I would say.
## Topic Application
- **mindset**: Mindset/psychology
- **practical**: Practical skills
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